Sunday, September 15, 2013

Closing!!

Sooooo.....Ant and I closed on our house last Wednesday!!!  We are officially home owners, and could not be more excited! I could (and probably will) talk about the home buying process a lot more in the future....But for now I'm entirely too excited to introduce you to our new home!

These pictures were taken when we first came to see the house with our realtor. First of all... How cute is it?? This adorable house stood out to us before seeing it because it was a cape, and different than so many of the cookie cutter houses we had seen. We had seen it online previously but put off going to visit it for awhile, to be honest, because it looks adorable...aka, in my opinion, small. But when our realtor added it to our list one day...we figured why not!


We were pleasantly surprised when we walked in the front door!! How gorgeous are those pegged hardwood looks? And the built ins?? The downstairs has a very open floor plan...with a beautifully updated kitchen at the back of the house. 


The previous owners had added a second bathroom, making it the three bedroom two bath combo we were looking for, while leaving some of the original touches that gave the house charm (stone fireplace, stairs, etc...)

Fast forward three months, SO much paperwork, and the biggest check we've ever signed in our lives, and here we are!!! September 11, 2013 we signed our mortgage, and tada! Keys to the house.


After finishing all the paperwork, we decided to go over to the house to celebrate with a picnic and prepare for moving day with some cleaning! Here is Ant excited to enter the house for the first time!


We reused our glasses from our engagement session to celebrate :)


We went back to the apartment pretty early, because early the next AM was moving day!! (We wasted no time)... Luckily, the new house is only 4 miles from our apartment, which made moving WAY manageable. My mom wasn't feeling great which was a bummer, but my dad showed up bright and early with both the truck AND the 18 ft trailer, ready to go!

The first load of furniture!

Safety first! We buckled the big TV up in the backseat for our first trip.

We had barely moved our first box in when the guy from the realtors office came by and took down the for sale sign! (Yes, I creeped a pic through the window)

In addition to my dad with the truck, my sister Ally and Ants parents all come down to help!! We put everyone to work and they could not have been more helpful!  We were able to move almost everything in one day (3 truck/trailer loads, 4 carloads, and one trip to Ants parent house for a mattress!) Now that everything is IN the house we just have to start the long process of unpacking, and the exciting process of making our house a home! 

.....I'll keep you posted :)

Sunday, September 8, 2013

Venues - more choices (part 2)

In the last post, I talked about some of our initial choices when it came to venues, and the ones we quickly took off this list.  Now I'll go into more detail with the locations we actually went to see, and our thoughts on each.

Before going on our EMoon (post still to come on that!), I knew I wanted to schedule visits with venues so we could hit the ground running as soon as we were back.  Scheduling the visits in the first place was complicated enough.  Our work schedules aren't exactly user friendly for normal business hours, and we were trying to fit in 5 places in 2 different states in a day and a half.  To add to the confusion, I really wanted to meet with a couple of caterers also.  A number of the venues we were looking at allow you to bring in the caterer of your choice...so we thought it was important to have an understanding of caterers in order to fully understand and compare costs.  In any case! I worked like a crazy person making phone calls and setting up appointments and managed the following schedule:

Monday AM:
-Eugene O'Neill Theater
-Guilford Yacht Club

Thursday:
-A Thyme to Cook
-Mystic Seaport
-Branford House
-Narragansett Towers

We weren't able to make appointments with two of the caterers in person, it was too difficult...so instead I was able to get rough proposals from both West Bay Gourmet & Coastal Gourmet to get some comparisons.

Monday morning our first meeting was with Eugene O'Neill Theater.  We met with Jillian their rental coordinator.  Eugene O'Neill is in Waterford, CT and sits right next to Harkness State Park, with a beautiful view of the water.  Their primary rental space is the Sunken Garden, where you can hold tented receptions.  Since the theater is primarily just that, a theater, they do not provide anything besides the space.  You bring in catering, rentals, etc. etc...The Sunken Garden rental fee is $2,500.  They also have the Sea Porch which you can rent for $750, as a cocktail hour location.  At first I really liked the idea of a totally blank slate - so when we left I immediately picked up the phone and called a rental company to get a quote.  The basic quote I got for rentals was over $6,000...WAY higher than my naive self realized.  That took this option, which I thought was going to be budget friendly with it's low site fee, up into the realm of pricey.  That also didn't include rentals such as bathrooms...and the space didn't offer a whole lot of backup options if the weather was bad.

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Our next stop was the Guilford Yacht Club.  I wasn't so sure the Guilford Yacht Club was going to be what we wanted, but it had too much potential sentimental meaning to not give it a shot!  A.  It is in Guilford, so it would give us the opportunity to get married in our home town....and B. You can see it from where Ant proposed!!  The GYC had a few things that were reallyyyyy tempting, especially after just seeing the totally DIY option at Eugene O'Neill....really fancy things like bathrooms, and indoor backup options for cocktail hour and ceremony in case it rained.  Things I hadn't even thought about before! We like to think that the summer will have nice weather, but we can't bank on that...and need to be realistic about options for inclement weather.  The GYC certainly had that.  However, GYC also has an exclusive caterer.  With a site fee of $5,000 in addition to the lack of flexibility with catering, it didn't seem likely it would fall within our budget.  I also wasn't sure it was the feel we wanted.  It was beautiful! but a little too clean & simple.  I had a very specific image in my head of what our wedding would look and feel like, and this didn't quite match.  But we had Day 1 of the search done, and a lot of things to talk about....

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This picture was taken from where Ant proposed - see the GYC on the right?? Gorgeous!

Thursday we got up early and actually started our day with a stop at A Thyme to Cook catering in North Stonington, CT.  When we walked up the building there was a chalkboard sign on the door that said "Welcome to a Thyme to Cook Rachel & Anthony" - which was adorable...and I was mad I never took a picture.  We walked in directly into the kitchen where this wonderfully friendly woman cooking AMAZING looking food welcomed us and pointed us in the right direction.  We met with Lauren, and spent about an hour talking about all things wedding!  We explained what we envisioned dinner looking like (details to come later) and chatted about food we liked, and didn't like.  For example: Ant needs to have olive tapenade at this wedding (???)...and the food he doesn't like includes things like tarter sauce.  He has strange requests, but he knows what he likes! Let's be honest, as long as theres dessert, I'm going to be a happy camper.  She took lots of notes and was going to send us a proposal within the week!  

Our next stop was Mystic Seaport.  At the Seaport we were going to check out two different areas for receptions: The River Room and the Boat Shed.  The River Room was a pretty standard event room that can hold up to 200 people.  It has a beautiful outdoor patio area for cocktail hour that comes with a Sperry Tent.  If you are going to use the River Room for your reception, you can also rent the North Lawn for your ceremony.  The North Lawn sits right on the water in front of the River Room's patio, with a beautiful view of the Mystic River.  The River Room has a Friday minimum of $10,000 and a Saturday minimum of $15,000.  If you meet these food and beverage minimums than there is not an additional site fee.  You can rent the North Lawn for the ceremony for $2,500......which is pretty high for just the ceremony site.  The River Room did not really impress me, it had a very "standard" wedding feel which I did not love, but the patio and North Lawn were beautifullllllllll so I thought I might be able to get past that.  Also, there was an exclusive caterer, but they are a caterer that we've used before and loved, so again - I thought MAYBE we could ignore our initial feelings about all inclusive venues....but I wasn't sure. 

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The Boat Shed is an open air pavilion that can also be used for receptions, and has a MUCH more casual but romantic feel.  I had been to a clambake at the Boat Shed years ago when my dad was involved in hosting a big conference in the area, so I knew it was a beautiful space.  The Boat Shed has a food and beverage minimum of $6,000 on Fridays and $12,000 on Saturdays....but the Boat Shed doesn't include tables/chairs/etc...you have to rent all of those.  Again - an option that I thought might be more budget friendly initially - the representative from the Seaport told us that by the time you're done receptions at the Boat Shed usually end up costing more than the River Room.  The biggest problem with the Boat Shed was that events can only go from 6pm to 10pm.  10pm is WAY too early for our wedding to end, so that made it unlikely that we would end up choosing the Boat Shed as our venue.  The space, however, was so unique we couldn't pass up the opportunity to check it out! 

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Our next stop was the Branford House.  The Branford House is on UConn's Avery Pt Campus in Groton, CT.  Ant and I were very familiar with the Branford House in general, since my dad works on campus as the director at Project Oceanology.  The building is drop dead gorgeous, with stunning views of Long Island Sound.  The huge front lawn allows for room for the ceremony, and then you can move to the patio for cocktail hour, before heading inside for the reception.  The Branford House has a site fee of $4,500 with includes tables and chairs, and they allow you to bring in any caterer you want (BIG win!).  They had no Saturdays available next summer, but did have 6 Fridays.  There were two things that initially concerned me about the Branford House: 1, the set up of the space.  The inside of the Branford House is split up into three rooms, which could make it a big disjointed...and 2: the intricate dark carved walls.  I envisioned our wedding being a light, simple summer event, and I wasn't sure if the dark walls were a bit too fancy for the feel we were going for.

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ct shoreline wedding venue

Our last stop was the Towers in Narragansett.  The Towers are another unique space for wedding receptions...and the only place we ended up seriously considering in RI.  You can have your ceremony and cocktail hour on the courtyard outside, and move inside for the reception.  The Towers can fit 180 for a seated reception, which fit into our required capacity.  The site fee for a Saturday is $2,800 and $2,100 for a Friday, but that does not include rentals for tables and chairs.  The cost for the courtyard for the ceremony is $225.  They have a list of pre-approved caterers, but the list has 18 different options so we did not consider that an issue...there were enough to choose from that we would have plenty of options budget wise.  While I love the idea of getting married in RI, Narragansett is pretty far from where we live in Guilford, and wouldn't be the most convenient when it comes to planning.



After our last meeting at the Towers, Ant and I enjoyed a drink at the Coast Guard House to celebrate successfully finishing our venue search!!! We were feeling really good about what we had seen, and were both on the same page about where we wanted to have our wedding! 



Can you guess where we chose??   Very soon I will write a full post on our top (and ultimately final) pick describing all the breathtakingly beautiful details that made us decide we couldn't possible get married anywhere else! 

Monday, September 2, 2013

Venues- the choices (part 1)

When Ant and I got engaged, the first and most obvious decision we had to make was where we were going to get married.  We knew we wanted summer of next year, 2014, and we wanted it to be close to home...either RI or CT shoreline.  The most important requirement was that the venue be near the water/on the water.  Being coastal has always been important to me- it made a huge impact on our decision when we moved into an apartment together, when we started looking at buying a house...and a wedding was no exception! The next thing was that I did not want a place that required a "cookie cutter" wedding.  I wanted to have the freedom to bring in any vendors I wanted.  That nixed a lot of options: banquet halls, event facilities, yacht clubs (although I did make a few exceptions)...The other thing to consider was size - we didn't have an official guest list, but based on our estimates we knew we needed a place that could fit at least 180.  Lastly - we are not going to be getting married in a church, so we wanted a space that could support a ceremony on site!

Things we quickly learned:
-150 is a max capacity for a LOT of locations (sometimes that # even includes staff!)
-While 12-15 months may be plenty of time to plan a wedding - it is NOT plenty of time to book a wedding. in the summer. on a Saturday. near the shore.  Most places we looked at that fit our other criteria also only had Fridays or Sundays available.
-There are way more factors to consider budget wise when it comes to venue than you might initially realize.

With all of my wedding blog reading - I was very aware of a lot of venue choices nearby that matched our criteria.  One of the BEST things that ever happened for our venue search was my discovery of this blog.  I think I literally searched in google "CT Shoreline wedding" and it popped up! Emily was planning her wedding in CT and had a number of posts about her venue search.  It was exactly the type of basic information I needed about some of the venues to get a sense of what made sense for us.  Plus it brought up a few I hadn't considered!

In any case - when Ant and I actually sat down to start looking at places, this was our initial list that we contacted for more information:

Connecticut:
-Jonathan Edwards Winery - Stonington, CT
-Salt Water Vineyards - Stonington, CT
-Guilford Yacht Club - Guilford, CT
-The Branford House - Groton, CT
-Eolia Mansion - Waterford, CT
-Eugene O'Neill Theater - Waterford, CT 
-Mystic Seaport (North Lawn & Boat House) - Mystic, CT

Rhode Island:
-Kinney Bungalow at Sunset Farm - Narragansett, RI
-Narragansett Towers - Narragansett, RI
-Westerly Yacht Club - Westerly, RI
-Various locations in Newport, RI

We crossed off both of the vineyards based on budget.  Jonathan Edwards has a site fee of $10,500 - just for use of the vineyard & the Sperry tents.  In addition, you can only choose between 2 caterers, and they estimate that at approximately $130 per person.  WAY over our budget.  Besides, while an absolutely beautiful spot, Jonathan Edwards did not really meet our #1 requirement of being on the water.

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Saltwater Farm Vineyard is probably my favorite vineyard to visit in CT.  It is a beautiful building - an old airplane hangar, and there is a patio where you can sit looking at the vineyard which borders a marsh and Long Island Sound.  Saltwater has a site fee of $8000 on Fridays, $7500 on Sundays and $11,000 on Saturday.  There is an additional fee of $500 to have your ceremony there, and $500 if you have more than 150 guests.  You also must choose one of a specific # of caterers for this space, and events must end by 10pm.  

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I highly recommend either place for a good glass of wine or wine tasting! But ultimately, not for our wedding.


The next one we crossed off was the Westerly Yacht Club, they do hold weddings for non-members, but you have to have a member sponsor you....no go.

Kinney Bungalow at Sunset Farm in Narragansett looked beautiful - very flexible with catering and near the water in RI.  Rental Fee was only $2500 for a non-resident on a Saturday...but has a max capacity of 150 including all service personnel....not going to work!


We ended up deciding not to look very seriously into Newport - generally locations in Newport are pretty expensive, and Newport isn't really convenient for anyone.  It's far for Ant's family in CT, and still about 35 minutes away for mine in RI! 

The last one we decided to cross off the list without visiting was Eolia Mansion.  Eolia is GORGEOUS - right on the water in Waterford, CT in Harkness State Park.  Site fee is $4,450 for 5 hours plus 2.5 hours set up time - and you can buy additional hours up until midnight.  However, Eolia also has a max capacity of 150 guests, and only allows you to choose one of 3 caterers.

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Next up: I'll go into more detail about the venues Ant and I DID go visit...